There’s nothing a narcissist loves more than an empath. What’s not to like? Their good nature makes them willing to believe everyone is good-natured and of equal value of the same kindness. They want to help people in need, especially those who are vulnerable. Or, at least appear vulnerable.
The narcissist’s perfectly crafted tragic backstory, filled with stories of them being a victim, will make the empaths rush in to help. Their seemingly friendly and non-judgmental nature will make an empath feel like they can confide in them, and trust them with their secrets. All of this makes them easy prey for narcissists.
Too often, empaths who aren’t as emotionally strong get wrapped up in narcissists’ manipulations. Often, this happens because empaths notoriously have low self-esteem, making them more prone to falling for a narcissist’s gaslighting and becoming dependent on them. However, there are some empaths who are unsusceptible to a narcissist’s tricks.
There are a few different names for these types of empaths, as researchers have yet to coin a term for them yet. But they’re a type of empath who doesn’t meet the typical empath profile. For the purpose of this article, we are going to refer to them as super empaths.
If you are an empath who feels you might have a narcissist manipulating you, and you’re wondering if you have what it takes to destroy a narcissist’s ego, keep reading! Because today’s great psychological topic is: How and why a super empath can destroy a narcissist!
Traits of a super empath:
They’re sensitive to their surroundings. Attuned to other people’s moods. Introverted. Intuitive. Easily overwhelmed or taken advantage of in intimate relationships or friendships. Difficulty not caring about others for unselfish reasons. Strong core-identity. Honest and frank.
Although it might seem as though all empaths are naive and easily manipulated, the super empath doesn’t stand for it. Their honesty and frankness and self-love stump the narcissist when their harsh cold insults used to devalue them don’t work. Super empaths have a strong enough self-image to use their empathic powers to defeat even the most cunning and calculated narcissists.
Narcissists might be masters at reeling in good-hearted, trusting, and caring empaths. But if they mess with the wrong empath, whose traits are stronger than others and know who they are underneath the manipulative lies, they can make any narcissist crumble. Remember, though, people diagnosed with a narcissistic personality disorder can sometimes be dangerous. This doesn’t need to mean they’re violent, but they can cause distress and harm in your life if you’re not careful. Getting revenge or being determined to prove them wrong will only fuel the narcissist, giving them even more narcissistic supply. Narcissists thrive off any attention or reaction, whether it’s positive or negative.
We here will never recommend acting in this manner for fun or to actively hurt a narcissist, only to do it to escape them. If you’re in a situation where you feel it’s necessary, be sure to have a large support group that knows what is happening. This is also important in case they decide to engage in a smear campaign to isolate you from supportive people.
You want people who love you to know that they might hear lies or your words taken out of context to hurt you, but let them know in advance. Taking this lightly can result in damaging consequences if you’re not careful, you never know the dark ideas they might have in their minds.
So if you’re ready to hear how to destroy a narcissist with your empathetic powers, let’s get started!
1. Their intuition can detect manipulations.
Empaths are very underestimated, especially super empaths. Their good-natured personalities and tendency to be over-trusting can make them seem naïve, gullible, or incapable of standing up for themselves. It’s true, empaths can be naive and fall for lies because they see the best in everyone. This might get them into a tricky situation with a narcissist because their guards were down at the beginning. However, unlike people with lower empathy, they’re more intuitive and can see patterns developing much faster before they’re too deep.
Super empaths can feel emotions and detect motives quickly. So, the moment an empath feels maliciousness, especially when it’s so far off from their own natural state, they know something is wrong. Normally a narcissist can’t keep their masks on for an extended period of time and try to leave their partners dependent on them quickly. But, the empath isn’t nearly as gullible as you might think. It might take them a while to realize the narcissist is lying to make you swoon over them. But as soon as their mask begins to slip, the empath catches on.
2. They often have a core identity and high levels of self-worth.
Super empaths have high levels of self-esteem, self-worth, and a strong sense of identity. If you’ve ever wondered why having a good sense of self is important because it is a bit of an abstract concept, here’s a perfect example.
Gaslighting is a common manipulation tactic used by narcissists. The term is derived from the 1944 film titled “Gaslighting” and surrounds itself around a married couple. Slowly, the wife starts believing she’s insane and loses sight of who she is. Meanwhile, the husband is repeatedly dimming the gas lanterns and telling his wife she’s hallucinating when she comments on the changing lights. Eventually, she’s driven into insanity. So, how could a strong sense of identity have helped the wife in the classic movie?
Well, if she had high self-esteem and knew exactly who she was, do you think she would have believed she was hallucinating? She probably would have looked back on her life and thought of all the times she hallucinated, noticing it was zero, and told her husband to fix the lights because he’s the crazy one for not noticing.
A super empath with high self-esteem knows their worth and doesn’t forget who they are, even when someone is telling them they’re wrong or crazy. Instead, they might drive the narcissist crazy, sometimes making them a conquest. Their empathy makes them perfect for giving the attention they crave and their self-esteem makes them both, attractive, envious, and unattainable.
3. Empaths listen carefully and remember the small details.
Narcissists are, well, narcissistic. They tend to think that the smartest people in the room and the only ones incapable of preserving information. It’s true, the average person isn’t always listening to the important details. The thing with narcissists is that they often don’t remember, or care to listen to the good details about you.
If you bring up positive accomplishments, they’ll either ignore them or quickly devalue them, often even pushing them out of their memory. Instead, they keep a mental database of everything less than perfect you’ve ever done. A super empath, in contrast, genuinely cares. When a narcissist is being vulnerable, even if their stories are twisted with lies, an empath listens. And they remember everything. The good and the bad.
Sure, a narcissist might use your flaws and mistakes against you to emotionally blackmail you. But they will forget the small important details, like incorrect names or other facts, due to not listening, which can ruin their credibility. In contrast, an empath will remember everything the narcissist ever told them. They will know exactly what to say to turn the tables back on the narcissist and retain control of the situation by humiliating them. Humiliation is a narcissist’s biggest weakness. Super empaths don’t revel in humiliating people or inflicting pain, but they’ll do whatever is necessary.
4. Empaths have cognitive and affective empathy.
Unlike narcissists, who have major impairments in their affective empathy but can still manage some cognitive empathy, their counterparts have both. Super empaths can use their previous experiences with them where they sensed true vulnerability to their advantage. Along with that, they can also feel when their emotions begin to move from cool and collected and when they’re about to crack with rage or shame. Although it’s rare for an empath, let alone a super empath, to use their empathy manipulatively, it’s the only thing that really stumps a narcissist. Because it’s one thing they’ll always lack.
5. Super empaths are unsuspecting.
As we already mentioned, empaths and super empaths give off a naive innocence that makes them appear as if they’ll be easy prey for the narcissist. It’s likely the narcissist walks into the relationship assuming they will be the one to destroy the empath, regardless of if it’s deserved. However, empaths don’t like to be wronged by others. They’re kind, nurturing, and forgiving until someone crosses them. Then, they’re unafraid to make sure some justice is made, usually by acting in the same manner as they did. After all, they learned from the best.
Super empaths are honest and frank. They don’t like to beat around the bush and won’t play the games the narcissist wants to play. When the narcissist threatens to ruin the empath’s reputation by sharing secrets to keep them dependent, the super empaths will share their secrets first. Although empaths feel shame and guilt, they will take the narcissist’s power away at every opportunity. And that will destroy the narcissist.
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