These are changes that we can deliberately implement to find stillness in the midst of the everyday chaos of life.

There are challenges in life. Some are the results of our bad choices. Others are outside our control. The pandemic effect is another issue entirely, nevertheless, if we are not careful, we lose control and are unnecessarily stressed up. However, there are five little changes to improve our mental well being, making us happier and enable us to take control of our life.

Science indicates all these little changes do a lot to reduce our stress level and contribute positively to how we experience fear, calm, depression, unhappiness, anger, etc.

Is Your Life On Auto-pilot?

A life of autopilot is carrying on your normal daily activities without any conscious involvement. Another reason we want to introduce these changes is to be able to sit back and take our lives back. Is your life on autopilot of wake — eat — go to work — come back home — eat — go to bed, and so on, and so forth, without any further thought.

Studies indicate that this type of auto plot lifestyle gives us stress, and lack of fulfilment culminating in disharmony of the body and spirit. When such disharmony occurs, illness shows its ugly face.

A lifestyle of autopilot prevents us from experiencing life to the full, and therefore we are not maturing spiritually. Spiritual maturing can only come about through the real experiencing outward happenings.

There Is A Huge Connection Between Physical And Mental Well-Being

The good news is that we all have this mindfulness in us, not necessarily alluding it to any religious beliefs or practice, we just need to be aware of it, and consciously cultivate the practice as we go about our daily life. If we do, the positive effect on our health and work balance is enormous, as it helps open us up in a way that leads to effective resolutions of problems, and put us back in control.

I have personally studied spirituality and health connection, for several years. I have particularly studied the connection between being present in the moment, physical and mental health to appreciate the enormous benefit the practice of mindfulness brings to mankind. There’s a huge connection between our mental and physical well being, and how we decide to live our lives.

It is easy for an average man to be absorbed in the day to day activity of the corporate world, what modern-day psychologists call ‘autopilot’’ and thereby lose touch with our bodies, minds, and spirit.

If men are not so entirely absorbed in the necessities and trivialities of daily life but would pay some attention to the events, great and small that are happening around them, and examine them more closely, their understanding would soon be widened. This close attention means to savor each moment, not necessarily passing judgment but calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings and thought.

I learned that there’s a huge responsibility in man to examine his life, as all abilities are given to him, and he must be guided by them, otherwise, he becomes a stranger to himself, and not be able to progress.

The practice of mindfulness enables us to pay attention to the present moment including our thoughts and feelings, which in turn can improve our mental well-being. This is because we understand ourselves and our surroundings better, and therefore able to adjust our way to focus if we need to.

Your life is not accidental and is not something that you cannot control in terms of your influence on it. You regulate your life.

My Own Typical Situation

For me, two things usually give me a headache — inadequate sleep or when hungry (and or unable to eat on time). If I am consumed on the day to day activity of life, it is possible not to immediately notice the nudge (headache) that my body is giving out.

Being consumed and not taking notes denies my response to my body needs. And of course, the breakdown will result, as the body will want to find a way out of the situation.

This can only mean one thing, illness will show its ugly face. But if I am in the habit of listening to my body and recognize its need, it is easy to take immediate action and focus on the issue at hand to resolve it. This is a typical example of how living in the moment helps towards one’s well being. Luckily, I can recognize my body signal, and adjust immediately.

We just have to consciously cultivate the practice as we go about our daily lives, ensuring we connect with our bodies, feelings, and thoughts. Follow me through to explore this wonderful spiritual experience for sound mind, body, and spirit.

Happiness Comes From Living In The Now

It was Katrina Mayer, who said,

‘’Age is only a number we count until we are old enough to know it doesn’t count’’.

You live for the day and keep going, said this lovely lady with a very long past, but still able to enjoy the present.

The past is past, and we cannot change it, but we can rob ourselves of current happiness and good emotional health by hanging out to old regrets, grudges, pain, and refusing to forgive.

These are the Five changes We Need to Implement to Improve Our Mental Well Being.

1. Open Heart, Open Mind — Positive Mindset

There’s no point in keeping a closed mind on virtually everything believing only in our own idea. Having a positive mindset, and opening to learning new things or skills (crochet, knitting, dance, or cooking new recipes) is a way that gives sense of purpose.

Also valuing individuality in others and respecting their opinions helps us towards accepting others. Learning does not necessarily have to be for a qualification, but learning new things does a lot to boost our self-esteem and prevent depression and anxiety.

2. Get Involved

in one form of activity or the other. It could be as simple as 30 minutes group walk in the park, volunteering within the locality, help a neighbor with dog walking or babysitting, or joining a local group (choir, dance, exercise class, etc).

Getting involved in activities provide the needed health and fitness benefit, as well as making us feel good about ourselves. The most important issue here is to do what you enjoy, and not according to other’s dictate. Search for local activities and enroll with any that resonate with you.

3. Connect

with others, classmates, family members, friends colleagues, and neighbors, etc. Spend time developing relationships, not necessarily by visiting all the time, (you can sometimes chat on the phone). Show love and interest in the progress of others. Be ready to advise or drop your own opinion on the ongoing issue.

Be sympathetic to the plight and suffering of others and offer solutions and advice if you are able to do so. This shows others matters to you, which in turn gives a sense of security and a greater sense of purpose. Human beings are social animals and having relationships gives us a sense of belonging and self-worth. Here are ways to connect:

• — — Day out with friends, family, colleagues, and neighbors, etc. (Social distancing permitting).

• — — Visit others e.g. family members, friends, neighbors, etc. (Social distancing permitting)

• — — -Volunteer at local centers, charities, etc.

• — — -Chat on WhatsApp, Skype, phone, just find a way to stay in touch.

4. Be Ready To Give & Receive

The simple act of kindness extends to others can go a long way to improve the mental well being of both the giver and the receiver. Unfortunately, when one mentions giving and receiving, most of us only think of what we don’t have, especially money. We can give time, lending a listening ear, running errands, or just being there. All these usually have an enormous impact on the well-being of the parties concerned.

5. Be Considerate

Both to others and oneself. Always think of how our behavior impacts others around us. We need to pay more attention to what is going on around us, including how we feel internally (conscious and unconscious). Are we fearful or overtly anxious about one issue or the other in our life?

We need to dissuade our minds from getting stressed up from the issue of the past or tomorrow’s needs that rub us of today’s enjoyment. We need to learn to let go because we cannot always have immediate answers, but if we relax about problems, the answers do come one way or the other.

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